The Positive Impact of Social Distancing in 2020: Reconnecting with Family (Interview)

We are in the final stage of a difficult year, which has brought us face to face with some
situations in which the base word was Adaptation. He reminded us how
health is important, how much hygiene matters, and we have undergone a
test suprem: let's love those close to us by keeping our distance. The situation
currently, with social interaction spaces closed and fear of
Appropriate behavior towards others leads people to avoid even parks or
playgrounds.

We already know that Nowhere
It's better than home,
but when you have to spend almost all your time in your own home,
things that are now forbidden become more desired than ever. To
find out how we can make this period a little more pleasant, how we can
learn positive things from everything we experience, we find out from CătăLina Hetel, psychotherapist.

•         Home
  This is the place where we don't wear any masks. How should people act
  because all the fear and anxiety that this situation generates, so as not to
  Do you create conflict, unwanted situations in the family?

„Home” „in the family” is that „we” and "ours," personal and secret, hidden
after protected. Outside the house, we present ourselves in a certain way, with a certain
outfit, with certain manners, with a certain attitude that often disappears
When we cross the threshold of the house, out of comfort or simplicity. At home, we become ourselves
internally, perhaps tired, perhaps scared, perhaps unserious, perhaps otherwise. The work of
home has become a big challenge in itself and an interweaving of different spaces.
The online chat screen shows glimpses of personal life, hidden from
a habit in the eyes of the world. Furniture corners appear, things we would want
hid and also family members who happen to pass by, voices of
children or the dog's barking.

In many cases, it is desired that the two worlds, at home and outside the home,
kept at bay. We come home and leave work things at the door. It's just that
At this moment, it's difficult to make this separation anymore.

On the other hand, the anxiety of this period in which we must accept
that we are vulnerable, perhaps even mortals, that we must submit to a
rules that we consider arbitrary or simply impossible to
we do everything we want, as we learned it can be done, it must be downloaded
somewhere and where we manage to talk about our vulnerabilities and weaknesses
more than home.

Home it has thus become a place with everything, a place where we take refuge from the outside world but also a place where we are forced to
downloading everything we would otherwise download at work, in the friend group, or else
and simply walking through the park. It's a new situation that we have to
we live as such, considering that the other family members are also going through
more or less through the same problems.

In a family, tolerance and negotiation are necessary.
space. Now more than
anytime, the house is filled to capacity, and we must learn to
we tolerate each other in the family and negotiate our desires and needs. Now more
More than ever, everyone's space and time have become clear. Each member
needs their workspace, even children.

Personal time has become a time when we are allowed to put into space
with its own problems and needs, while being careful not to flagrantly violate
the other's time and the other's space. Tolerating the person next to us, with
its problems and needs, is a vital exercise for survival in
family. To survive together, we must also learn to let go
here and let's be realistic with our demands of the other members, so
We understand that they can support us but they cannot replace an entire world that we have
left it at the door.

This is a period when we can truly become adults and learn to
happy endings at home, letting go of unrealistic expectations. Now more than ever
We need the support of the person next to us, but we only see them now.
weaknesses and limitations. Now more than ever, we will have to make peace with
our own needs and requirements and ask ourselves how many of our needs can be
fulfilled by other members of the family and what concerns ourselves. In a word, to go
We need to learn to ask, to negotiate healthily, and even to accept
refuse.

•       We are
  forced to maintain physical distancing, which is almost impossible for those who
  share the same home. But how can we compensate for the physical absence in the lives of those
  dear, which we will not be able to (at least it is not recommended) to visit by
  Holidays?

A major problem of the modern world is the intertwining of respecting the rule
and personal freedom. It's a broad discussion about rules and how much
these violate the freedom to do what you deem necessary. If
we manage to accept that rules exist to help us survive with
everyone, we will understand that we can visit loved ones if we agree to
We follow some rules. If we ask more people why they want to do
certain things, or will respond with „because that's how it's done” or „because that's how
”I want it." I think this period brings an exercise in maturity.

What is the answer to the question of why you want to visit loved ones?
If you miss them, you can call them every evening online. If you want
so you know what I'm doing, you can find out anytime, not just on holidays. If you miss me
Mom's cooking, you can ask her to cook for you, she'll surely be happy, and in
I can take you a surprise too. We actually need to ask ourselves what
I truly dream of these holidays and holidays in general. I have
reached in recent years to get lost in „musts” or „this is how it's done”,
forgetting the essence of meetings. If we choose to protect loved ones and not
hugging doesn't mean we can't have them in our minds and souls
holidays. I think the only thing we have to give up is
stubbornness in not respecting the rule. Respecting natural laws, we can
we do whatever we want.

•           Cum
  we can learn to transform this period when we cannot go out into places
  public care involves groups of people, in order to reconnect with your family
  ours?

It is a period in which, willy-nilly, we were staying together with
those at home and it is a good time to get to know them better. We can watch movies together, we can play games, we can
I'd rather drink a glass of wine and eat a good pizza at home. I have often learned
let's run away from home and fill our lives with outside things: vacations,
parties, wonderful things otherwise. They are also needed, but it seemed like
these took over all the time. Home was just a place to sleep and now it
reaching a permanent place. It is indeed a sudden change, but one that is needed
to be accepted. Just as there is a time for parties outside the home, now is a
time for the home and family, let us accept it as such.

There is a tendency to complain, to rebel, to not accept, when we can
just to take this period of life as it is, looking for the opportunities that
apart. We have the privilege of gaining a few extra hours a day, hours that we don't
that we still spend in traffic and in which we can finally sleep, or we can take a bath
or we can write something we've wanted to for a long time, or we can read something we couldn't manage to
or maybe we can work on a new project. And last but not least, we can
we know those close to us. We might have pleasant surprises and
we discover beautiful things and beautiful people.

•           In
  The winter holidays are coming soon, and viruses will come too, besides the virus that's already here
  existent. How do we create harmony in the family, although there is a permanent fear for
  health, work, how online school is going?

Fear appears when we experience a feeling of helplessness. We see ourselves as small.
facing the big and unfriendly world. We fail to see ourselves succeeding. Strategy
of successful people is to see themselves succeeding. Even if we lose our jobs,
we can always find another better one, even if the child has online school, we can
to supplement what is happening there with our own experiences, with our own
information. Sometimes we succumb to fatigue and consider ourselves more helpless and
less skilled than we actually are. In fact, we can always find solutions
the problem. As for the virus, it is important to place ourselves among those who actually
if they get sick they will have mild symptoms and obviously they will survive.
During this period, the media is trying to make us responsible by showing us the disaster
produced by the virus, but often has the effect of increasing anxiety. It is spoken
a little about those who have healed, but we must not forget that they exist and that they are
multi. And above all, to learn how to always place ourselves in the camp of the winners.

•           Help
  spending leisure time in nature? What should people know to do
  more outings of this kind, rather than crowded public places?

Nature has always been a good place for recharging
batteries and for improving health. It is known that those who had a green courtyard have passed away
easier during the lockdown period and that many prefer to escape to the countryside, to a yard
instead of the apartments. It is important to find ourselves an oasis where we can calm down. In
Fond Nature always reminds us of our roots and helps us understand who we are
And how simple everything is.