Everything will be fine – but until then, our little brave ones are also going through a difficult period. How can we help them?
Back to blogThis period when
We are forced to stay home, it's a real challenge for all of us.,
given that almost everything we knew about social life, life
professional and family relationships undergo major changes. Distancing
social is a restriction almost incompatible with human nature and therefore,
its effect on our physical and emotional well-being should not
neglected.
I chose to focus
today children, a category with special vulnerability to the effects
psychological effects of social distancing, effects that, although not as obvious
Given the risk of contracting the new virus, ignored, they can create problems.
notable emotional developments in the future. For children, social interaction is perhaps
the most important means of learning and development. And here we are not referring
only on the process of learning the subjects within the curriculum
school, but to the entire learning process that underpins development
General to the individual, personality, and interaction skills
social, physical, or artistic skills.
All of this was done
so far in the context of social interaction, based on behaviors of the type
imitation, feedback, help, conflict, collaboration, affection which acted as
information sources, as well as stimulation and direction factors in the process
of learning and development.
In the context of distancing
social, all the needs that children fed from interactions with
schoolmates, friends, teachers remain largely the responsibility of
parents. And considering this aspect, and for parents, everything becomes
Change; the discomfort of distance is an anxiety multiplier
caused by the epidemic crisis, this new task not being an easy one at all.
Children associate
educational activities at home with their homework and study time
individual, in which they deepen the information acquired at school. With
the necessity of conducting online lessons, children discover a new form of teaching,
of interaction and experience new situations, involving responsibility,
commitment and free will management.
From waking up
morning, regarding aspects of motivation and temptations that can distract them, students have
part of new experiences. There are many positive sides to this process of
remote teaching-learning-evaluation. Among these are:
familiarization with the digital education system and skills development
operational.
But so that all
these to happen harmoniously, parents must coordinate nimbly
the new lifestyle. And to offer some advice to parents, I stayed
talk with Gabriela Maalouf, Psychologist specializing in
Parenting, mother of two, resident of Greenfield, who understands
the challenges faced by both parents, but especially children from
community, trying to spend time outdoors playing.
1. What we should not tell them
children in the situation created by the pandemic?
This is a period when
We communicate more with children and should not lie to them or
they transmit toxic messages: if you don't wash, you'll see what happens to you, if you cry
too much, you'll definitely get sick. I had children in the office who had arrived,
from a simple cold to a severe form, because they hadn't said from the beginning that they
My throat hurts a little, for fear of being scolded. There are many videos online
what it means for children about this virus and I recommend responding accordingly
the age of children's questions. I would limit participation in our discussions with
other adults on this topic, especially if we debate scenarios
apocalyptic, or exposure to all negative news.
2. How do we keep a commitment
program, especially regarding online teaching hours, study hours
Where are the themes?
We're talking about grown-up kids now.
And, as far as I've seen, they're already doing very well, most of them
among them. I saw that they get absences from school if they don't participate and
feedback on unfinished assignments, so we have help from the teachers. What else would I
What would I do as a parent? I would encourage them to respect the rules just like at school and
I'd explain to them that teachers are people too and probably aren't either
I'm new to this program, so mutual respect is key.
3. It's beautiful outside, spring is
They come into their rights. How do we help them give up their fierce desire to leave
residence
This is a question with
truly difficult. We do our best to find fun activities on
balcony and to understand the emotions they are going through: anger, frustration,
sadness. It's a difficult period from which, if we were to see the good side, it would be that
We will have children with much greater resilience—resistance to frustration. We hope to
We won't give up by then... :)))
Being the first NLP practitioner
in Romania specializing in neuro-linguistic programming for children
and parents, in the UK, Gabriela Maalouf offers page of
Facebook parent-child activity suggestions you can put into
practice.
Until we return to normal, we have patience, # Stay Home and we give ourselves
more time to get to know each other, to rediscover each other.
Proposal for
activity https://www.facebook.com/www.gabrielamaalouf.ro/videos/722871511578024/
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